- Why it helps
- The instinct to solve is a form of love, and it is almost always the thing that ends the conversation. Presence is harder, quieter, and considerably more effective.
- Try it tonight
- The next time it happens, ask before you cross the doorway.
- If it doesn't land
- The parents who find this hardest are usually the most loving ones. The urge to fix is the urge to remove your child's pain, and sitting in it with them can feel like negligence. It is the opposite.
- Come back to it
- Worth returning to on any week that feels like this one.