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The Tic Nobody Mentions

What to do — and what not to do — when your child develops a tic.

Written by Sian Trombley · BEd, MACP, CCC

Clinically reviewedLast reviewed 1 August 2026
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It usually starts small — an eye blink, a throat clear, a shoulder roll — and a parent notices before the child seems to. The question that follows almost every time is some version of: should I say something?

Tics are common in childhood, affecting a meaningful minority of children at some point, and most are transient. When they persist, they are neurological, involuntary in the sense that matters, and strongly influenced by stress, tiredness and excitement rather than by anything a parent did or didn't do. Understanding this changes how a family responds — and the response matters more than the tic itself.

What the evidence supports

  • Tics have a strong genetic and neurological basis, not a psychological cause
  • They characteristically wax and wane over weeks and months, often without a clear trigger
  • Stress, excitement and fatigue reliably increase tic frequency, not because of weakness but because of arousal
  • CBIT (Comprehensive Behavioural Intervention for Tics) has strong evidence as a first-line, non-medication treatment
  • Tics commonly co-occur with ADHD and OCD, which may need separate attention

Common parental mistakes

Responding well

  1. 01
    Get an assessment

    A GP or paediatrician can rule out other causes and refer to a specialist if tics persist beyond a few weeks.

  2. 02
    Educate the household

    Siblings and grandparents need the same calm explanation you'd give your child, so nobody comments unhelpfully.

  3. 03
    Loop in the school quietly

    A brief, factual note to the teacher prevents a tic being mistaken for disruption or attention-seeking.

  4. 04
    Ask about CBIT

    This structured behavioural therapy has strong evidence and does not require medication as a first step.

  5. 05
    Track patterns, not the tic itself

    Note what precedes flare-ups — a maths test, a late night — so you can support the underlying stress, not police the symptom.

Children do not need a perfect parent. They need a predictable one who returns after hard moments.

Sian Trombley, Canadian Certified Counsellor

What you can try this week

Step 01

Say nothing in the moment

Let a tic happen without comment, expression change or eye contact that signals concern.

Step 02

Give language for later

Away from the moment, calmly explain: 'Sometimes your body does a movement or sound you don't fully choose — that's called a tic, and it's common.'

Step 03

Check in on school, not just the tic

Ask how classmates have reacted, rather than asking about the tic itself — social fallout often needs more support than the tic does.

Key takeaways
  • Tics are neurological, not behavioural choices, and are not caused by parenting.
  • Drawing attention to a tic in the moment tends to increase it, not reduce it.
  • Tics naturally wax and wane and often worsen under stress or excitement.
  • CBIT is an evidence-based, non-medication treatment option worth discussing with a specialist.
  • How a family responds shapes whether a child develops shame around a tic they cannot fully control.
Reflection
  1. Have I ever asked my child to 'stop' a tic, and how did they respond?

  2. Do I know whether the tic increases at particular times — homework, screens, bedtime?

  3. Am I more anxious about the tic than my child is?

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Sian Trombley, BEd, MACP, CCC
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Sian Trombley

Canadian Certified Counsellor · Founder of Thrive Family Co.

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