
The Tic Nobody Mentions
What to do — and what not to do — when your child develops a tic.
Written by Sian Trombley · BEd, MACP, CCC
It usually starts small — an eye blink, a throat clear, a shoulder roll — and a parent notices before the child seems to. The question that follows almost every time is some version of: should I say something?
Tics are common in childhood, affecting a meaningful minority of children at some point, and most are transient. When they persist, they are neurological, involuntary in the sense that matters, and strongly influenced by stress, tiredness and excitement rather than by anything a parent did or didn't do. Understanding this changes how a family responds — and the response matters more than the tic itself.
What the evidence supports
- Tics have a strong genetic and neurological basis, not a psychological cause
- They characteristically wax and wane over weeks and months, often without a clear trigger
- Stress, excitement and fatigue reliably increase tic frequency, not because of weakness but because of arousal
- CBIT (Comprehensive Behavioural Intervention for Tics) has strong evidence as a first-line, non-medication treatment
- Tics commonly co-occur with ADHD and OCD, which may need separate attention
Common parental mistakes
Responding well
- 01Get an assessment
A GP or paediatrician can rule out other causes and refer to a specialist if tics persist beyond a few weeks.
- 02Educate the household
Siblings and grandparents need the same calm explanation you'd give your child, so nobody comments unhelpfully.
- 03Loop in the school quietly
A brief, factual note to the teacher prevents a tic being mistaken for disruption or attention-seeking.
- 04Ask about CBIT
This structured behavioural therapy has strong evidence and does not require medication as a first step.
- 05Track patterns, not the tic itself
Note what precedes flare-ups — a maths test, a late night — so you can support the underlying stress, not police the symptom.
Children do not need a perfect parent. They need a predictable one who returns after hard moments.
Sian Trombley, Canadian Certified Counsellor
What you can try this week
Say nothing in the moment
Let a tic happen without comment, expression change or eye contact that signals concern.
Give language for later
Away from the moment, calmly explain: 'Sometimes your body does a movement or sound you don't fully choose — that's called a tic, and it's common.'
Check in on school, not just the tic
Ask how classmates have reacted, rather than asking about the tic itself — social fallout often needs more support than the tic does.
- Tics are neurological, not behavioural choices, and are not caused by parenting.
- Drawing attention to a tic in the moment tends to increase it, not reduce it.
- Tics naturally wax and wane and often worsen under stress or excitement.
- CBIT is an evidence-based, non-medication treatment option worth discussing with a specialist.
- How a family responds shapes whether a child develops shame around a tic they cannot fully control.
Have I ever asked my child to 'stop' a tic, and how did they respond?
Do I know whether the tic increases at particular times — homework, screens, bedtime?
Am I more anxious about the tic than my child is?
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